Three little words that weaken your message without you even realizing it.
And it's possible you'll use it every day.
I almost fell into one of those myself a little while ago.
The first one is "just"“
“"It's just a detail..."”
“"Just so you know..."”
The word "only" diminishes the weight of what you're saying.
Simply eliminate the "only" in those cases.
Instead of "It's just a detail," it's an important detail.
Instead of "Just to let you know," I would like to inform you.
The second word: I think
“"I think we should think about this more carefully..."”
“"I don't think that turned out very well."”
When you use "acho," what does it sound like? Doubt.
So, let's get straight to the point:
We should think more carefully... without the "I think"
That didn't turn out very well. I think it's unnecessary.
And the third word that weakens your message: "maybe"“
“"Perhaps it would be better to change..."”
“"Perhaps we should review this process..."”
That way you don't provide direction. Especially if you're leading a group… Direction is what's expected of you. When you use "maybe," leaving the decision open-ended, the path becomes undefined. Do you see?
I know the intention is good: You want to soften the tone, right? You want to be kind…but you end up weakening the message.
You can soften your tone of voice by speaking affectionately, and change your expressions, smiling for example. Think about it. You can be gentle and kind in tone while also being direct and assertive in your words.
Be mindful of what you say and how you say it.
This greatly improves your life.